No couple dreams of getting divorced after marriage. Almost all want to have a lasting relationship with their partner.
Starting a romantic and 'cool romantic' relationship with your partner is easy, but keeping it up to be lasting is a tough job.
So not infrequently many couples choose to terminate their relationship because they can not go through the process of falling marriage relationship.
No need to come to a psychologist for a wedding consultation, a marriage therapist with more than 30 years of experience, Andrew G. Marshall has the right strategy to make couples fall in love again.
Reporting from The Independent, there are some questions that can be asked to me to grow back the love of the couple. Prepare drinks, sit back, and invite the couple to sit together to answer the following questions.
1. In what period in the life history where you want to live and why?
This question raises your interest and your dreams. In addition, this can also see whether your choice or answer both indirectly related to the couple.
2. What makes your day perfect, from waking up to sleeping at night?
Why is this question important? You think maybe you know what the couple likes, but is that right? Think and re-aware whether everything about the act of the him or her is just a matter of you and other friends.
3. What is the most thankful thing in life other than marriage and children?
The couple seldom pause and count the grace earned. This could be a good opportunity to reflect back on the blessings you have.
If you look further, most people focus on what they do not have then what is. Do not get caught, and if it happens, pay attention to the effect it has on you and your partner.
4. Tell your experience from small to present for about five minutes.
This five minute story will describe our choices and reactions when we are having trouble. This opportunity is good to express anything openly and maybe this is the first time you acknowledge it to your partner.
5. What gives you meaning in life?
Everyone should ask themselves (especially middle-aged couples) what yesterday was done in half life and in the other half. This will help you get back 'to the right path'. The reason is, often you unconsciously do things that make us 'drained' rather than 'giving intake.'
This question is also to know what drives the couple, allowing you to distinguish between simple wants and basic needs, and to be a compact team to help each other.
6. What qualities do you have that make your partner think you are a special person?
Marshall often asks this to his client in the first session to remind the couple of what their special bond is.
Keep in mind how you feel about the quality of the couple now. What made you interesting at the beginning of the meeting became a problem now? For example, do you like friendly and sociable couples but now you feel he is not focused on home and family?
7. What are three similarities you and your partner?
A question for warm up before you start talking about your relationship and your current partner. See how the shared things change over time? Is the change good or bad?
8. When do you make your partner feel small and embarrassed?
Give an example of when you do not make you embarrassed and when you make him so embarrassed.
Shame is the most difficult form of emotion to deal with. Respect the couple's honesty. Sympathize with your partner's hurt even if you're not the cause, and apologize for the pain you've ever made. Look at his eyes and held his hand to calm and reduce the pain.
9. complete this sentence: I wish I had someone to share with ...
This session is to see how you and your partner are going forward. Discuss also what you feel if your partner has close friends and if you feel alienated between them. What new activities might be done together?
10. What behaviors do you want to change partner?
One of these questions will bring up a chat between you and your partner. Make this like a complaint so it feels like a fair exchange.
For example, Marshall continued, the mother agreed to stop reading during bedtime and father stopped leaving the bathroom in a mess.
